Self-love Checklist Is yours a pennyworth of investment in you? You are investing in what consumes your time and energy each day. If it’s not investing in you, what does it say about how much you love yourself?Your culture may have taught you that Doing in the world to prove yourself is how you get …
Item One: Where is your attention every day? 1. On Work, Children, Parents, Spouse/Partner, Friends, Making Meals, Exercise, Eating, Playing games, Watching movies/tv, Reading, Facebook, Internet, News? 2. Action: Make a list of what you attend to during the day, and write down how much time a rough guess you give to each. 3. Then …
Importance of Shadow Work If personal development attract you, if you want to express your full potential, and/or to heal your inner child, it’s important to know the power of the subconscious. It is also important to address the Shadow in any kind of development effort, emotional, personal, or spiritual. The Shadow lies beyond …
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Young hurt inner children may be suppressed but can be seen in your adult life when they are triggered– when you *are rejected, *criticized, *make mistakes, *feel stupid, *want to be invisible or disappear. The adult may not realize that these reactions of anger, fear, and grief, ranging from quiet to strong, come from …
[First published in Dumblittleman.com, March 2, 2017] “Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” Les Brown My daughter and I were celebrating her high school graduation with a vacation in my home state, Hawaii. To make it extra special we purchased a zodiac/boat ride on Kauai …
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[First published in Tiny Buddha, 2016] “Where there is anger there is always pain underneath.”—Eckhart Tolle In the sixth year of our marriage, my husband shocked me by telling me that he had decided on an open marriage. This would give him permission to do what he was already doing—having an affair. In one …
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Love is probably the most common human motivation. Do you know that there are more songs about love than about any other subject? Love is probably the most important subject for most people. If you asked them, they might admit it. Love is more important that fortune and fame. Why? To be human is …
Aspects of the Inner Child Seen in Enneagram Types I am more a specialist with working with inner children, and definitely am not an expert about the Enneagram. However, you may find it useful to see how the wounds, emotional makeup and strategies of each Enneagram type as I speculate on them in the following …
Major Character Structures According to William Reich Are you an Enneagram 1 or 5 or ? Or on the Myers-Brigg Type Indicator (MBTI)–an INFP? ENTJ? ESTJ? Or in the Reich’s system: a schizoid? oral? rigid? It’s been helpful to me in understanding myself and others to use information from personality systems. I am an INFJ; …
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The Inner Child Longs for Connection The Inner Child is created when s/he experiences the trauma of separation. It is the experience of being separate from all that was needed: a sense of protection and safety, and feeling loved and cared for. This experience was probably the rupture from being held by a loving mother …
